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Am I Abusing Others?

Abuse is not an accident. It does not happen because someone was stressed-out, drinking, or using drugs. Abuse is an intentional act that one person uses in a relationship to control the other. Abusers have learned to abuse to get what they want. The abuse may be physical, sexual, emotional, and psychological.

Abusers often have low self-esteem. They do not take responsibility for their actions and at times may even blame the victim for causing the violence. They may accuse their partners of being the “abuser” and they, sometimes, genuinely believe that they are the “abused” party. They may use this claim to manipulate friends, service providers and/or law enforcement agencies.

Have friends or family ever told you they thought you were abusive or controlling? Abuse is not part of a normal relationship, even if it doesn’t happen every day. Ask yourself these questions.

Do I:

Help and Resources

Center Against Family Violence 

El Paso Police Department

Texas Council on Family Violence

The Nationals Women Health Information Center
800-994-9662 TDD: 888-220-5446

The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)

The National Abuse Dating Hotline
1-866-331-9474 | 1-866-331-8453 TTY

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