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I've Been Abused

It is helpful to confide in a trusted family member or friend. They can help be objective about your situation and become a support for you. In additional seek out professional help to guide you and help you deal with the abusive experiences. If necessary, talk to an attorney about legal options such as separations, divorces, children custody, and/or restraining/protective orders. There are agencies in your community that can help you seek out the necessary help you need. This is the difficult and hard part of the abusive relationship and it is wise to look for helpful resources that can facilitate the process of leaving an abusive relationship. Do not isolate yourself.

The most dangerous time during an abusive relationship is when it ends. You may be scared to end the relationship. If you are, take that fear seriously. Ending a relationship with an abusive or controlling person is not the same as ending a healthy relationship.

If you ever feel you are in immediate danger, call 911.

Ending an abusive relationship is difficult. There is nothing wrong speaking to a counselor to help you talk about the abusive relationship and understand it is not your fault. Remember although your physical scars may heal, your psychological ones may not have. There is help for you. You do not have to suffer in silence.

Unfortunately, ending the abusive relationship does not end the dangers; on the other hand it comes with a different set of dangers including keeping yourself safe. It is often encouraged to come up with a safety plan to help you be safe. This is why it is important to create a personalized safety plan that fits your situation and experience. Remember there may be many suggestions on how to be safe but you need to do what YOU think is safe for yourself and children.

The following suggestions may help when you are thinking about leaving an abusive relationship:

Help and Resources

Center Against Family Violence 

El Paso Police Department

Texas Council on Family Violence

The Nationals Women Health Information Center
800-994-9662 TDD: 888-220-5446

The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)

The National Abuse Dating Hotline
1-866-331-9474 | 1-866-331-8453 TTY

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